Healthy Ideas To Establish Boundaries

What is a Boundary and why are they essential in your life, personal, professional and romantic? Boundaries are invisible lines or borders that safe guard a person with support to protect, uphold and honor what those limitations or restrictions are for that individual in different aspects of life. This is one of the highest forms of self care and not selfish at all.

Having boundaries is a healthy way to create distance, physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually between yourself and what you feel is acceptable for your own well-being. These limitations are what someone is willing to accept or tolerate from themself or another. Without having healthy clear boundaries, someone might feel unsafe, anxious, overwhelmed, disrespected, taken advantage of, controlled, violated or manipulated to name a few.

Here are some healthy ideas and steps to help you create personal boundaries:

  • Identify your personal values and priorities: It is important to be clear about what is important to you and what you stand for. This will help you determine what you are willing to accept or not accept in your life.

  • Communicate your boundaries: It is important to communicate your boundaries clearly and assertively to others. This means being honest and direct about what you are willing to tolerate and what you are not.

  • Be consistent: It is important to be consistent in your boundaries. If you allow others to cross your boundaries occasionally, they may think it is okay to do so regularly.

  • Practice self-care: It is important to take care of yourself and your needs. This means setting boundaries around your time, energy, and resources to ensure that you are not overextended or overwhelmed.

  • Be willing to compromise: While it is important to set boundaries, it is also important to be flexible and willing to compromise. This means finding a balance between your needs and the needs of others.

Remember, setting healthy boundaries takes time and practice, while also feeling abnormal for imposing a border between you and someone or something else. These new patterns can lead to creating a more fulfilling and balanced life that feels healthy and true in the alignment with your worth, value and moral compass.

Marcie Reznik